It's Autism Awareness Week from the 14th to the 20th May 2006.
Introduction and Prologue: self-insertion in action research
To begin: When people ask me "How do you know about autism/how did you learn about it?"
I answer: "By being in an Anglophone country, culture and environment - within a developed country."
There is a diverge in interest and awareness in many European countries even now.
We have a supranational organisation called Autisme Europe which is part of the World Autism Organisation.
There are many disagreements on diagnosis, incidence/prelevance, treatment and outcomes.
Explorations in autism awareness in print and on the net: my personal experience
In March 2002 I became embroiled in a discussion on the
One of the members had revealed Munchhausen's by Internet in her interactions through instant messenger through another member.
We then set to talking.
I think this post here will set us straight about autism awareness in the developed versus the majority world.
My young friend was born in 1986, which sets us at the beginning of our survey of autism awareness around the world and the efforts towards it. She lives in
I hope she and some of her friends will come here!
"I would think so [addressed to a woman who has an autistic grandson]. I WAS slightly more tolerant because I know in
Donna Williams in Nobody Nowhere has said: "While it may look like it, autism is not a form of madness [and this after 20 years of being called mad and stupid and various other derogatory names]. In fact, it's something of an extreme example of a mechanism in action which prevents it."
[I redirect the conversation to my friend in
Then I heard of this author quite by chance, when reading the paper. Her name was
Speaking of the Theory of Mind crowd: there is a test called the Checklist for Autism in Toddlers, that Simon Baren-Cohen (of
So it's a lot of books, essays, papers, websites and other sources, including just talking to people."
A little earlier (the 11th March 2002) I had written this explanation of Autism Spectrum Conditions to my friend in the Majority World:
"That's the conclusion I would come to as well, [my friend in
And I'm glad [the woman with an autistic grandson] gave you the explanation that she did. It is a very good all round one.
The type of thing that is usually referred to as autism was discovered by an Austrian-American man named Leo Kanner. He was supposed to have described some very severe cases, but except for the two mute ones (50% percent of these people don't talk, 25% are echolalic-that is, they repeat things, and 25% communicate meaningfully) these would be considered quite moderate in our times. It's only been around and written about for nearly 60 years, since during the War (1943). So this form is known as classical or Kannerian autism. Kanner and others thought it was child schizophrenia and the term itself comes from the Greek for self (How does a car run?) by a guy named Heller who studied it more than 10 years before. It was meant to describe a part of a phenomena that involved withdrawing from reality into fantasy (that's why I clarify the imagination thing later on). But for many people with this neurological condition, many aspects of reality are too intense, especially the sensory ones.
Now Asperger, another Austrian man, wrote about quite different people. It is he who has informed the discussion about the Tripod of Impairments (social skills, communication-verbal and non-verbal-and imagination-NOT the kind of imagination that is in stories and poems and other things, but the kind that helps us plan things and organise things and anticipate things that go on in our lives) because of Uta Frith and Sula Wolff's translation into English of his original paper.
Kanner has informed us down into the 21st century, whereas Asperger was not even known about since the late 80s. Many people with Asperger's are diagnosed quite late (usually in school age), and the diagnosis is quite iffy. But there are lots of famous people who might have it like Albert Einstein and also Thomas Jefferson.
That doesn't go any way to explain why Catriona is shy (I have a feeling that the remoteness of her location may have something to do with not being able to attend college, just as much as her Aspergers might), but it can often seem to other people like shyness or rudeness. Also there is a lot of neurological things going on with emotions and social situations, like anxiety. Especially if they're not succeeding in social situations or can't fulfill their interests.
And of course there are lots of people on the spectrum between these two profiles. The MOST severe cases are those who regress between 2 and 4 after apparently normal development, and these are called Childhood Disintegrative Disorder. There is also Rett's syndrome which only affects girls. The vast majority affect boys by 10 to 1.
If you wish to find out more locally, there is a place called Action for Autism in
By the way: "pervasive developmental disorder/problem" is described that way from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders (and has a separate definition in
And I hope I was not being fearsomely technical here. It's not a mental illness, though it does affect the brain and how other parts of the body talk to the brain. In mental illness thoughts and feelings are disordered because of chemical or experiential imbalances, and they more or less get worse or stay the same. They are almost never in childhood unless they are inheirited. And many many conditions can cause autism like behaviour for different reasons, and benefit from those kinds of treatments.
I now say Autism Spectrum Conditions.
The grandmother embraced and endorsed my explanation of her grandson's condition with open arms.
My friend from North India benefited from it and there will be an interesting sequel when we get to Autism Awareness in
Today, however, we are focusing on
Like many good things in our Western civilisation, autism begins in
The two chief discoverers, as I have pointed out, were Austrian.
When I was reading Leo Kanner's Autistic disturbances of affective contact [during my exam preparations!], I wrote this down:
" 8:38 am - Dupont reads Kanner-at last
Perhaps it was a good thing that [my friend in
He chose the Autism Treatment Centre of America, which programme Son-Rise I had previously heard about from a Scottish friend.
My own web interests are pretty much the same ones that I have in real
life, including "Research Methods in Psychology", international
relations and European unity, a club on the Labour Party, Winnie the
Pooh, the Eurovision Song Contest, and a few Harry Potter clubs/sites
(no mailing lists though-I joined CRAZY FOR HARRY POTTER at the height
of its popularity and don't even bother keeping up). I join clubs to
help me make my website better, and lots of language and culture clubs.
I visit a few clubs on
Delphidaily, including the Girl Woman Reading
Writing Forum, and 2
forums. Oddly enough there is/was Chalet School
an Enid Blyton forum but no-one seems to post in it. Delphi Forums are
far more general and active than Yahoo Clubs, and they have a more
user-friendly interface, including the use of HTML. They're usually
quite private as well.
Lately I've been discovering newsgroups and learning all about their
culture, and have even found the courage to post a few messages. But
mostly I lurk on there-they're very scary and troll-ridden places.
Usenet is so political, I always think, but it was the start of the
Net so I give it the respect its due.
I am reading lots of sites on
Eastern Europeto do with the researches
for my latest book. This has taken a great deal of my time this year,
but I greatly enjoy the honesty on those lists, and have never ever
broken a confidence. On Yahoo my clubs include
Channel Islandsand the Gerbil's Official Club. Warren
What "Little Book Room"? That's Collecting Books and Magazines, and
the first E-Group I ever joined...and could you tell me about your
My current obsessions on the web including downloading games and
documents I would never find otherwise, including such diverse
documents as "Monty Python's Life of Brian" and "Autistic Disturbances
of Affective Contact" and of course many many others from sites that I
Dear [my Scottish friend who is a moderator of the Blyton e-group],
I know almost nothing about what is going on in that field in
I wasn't going to stay ignorant for long and I soon made it my business to find out.
I posted a post about imagination in Son-Rise children, as I was then researching creative and imaginative behaviour in children with Reactive Attachment Disorder. I may well have used an autistic group as controls and then also a typically developing group. There is a good site about science and peer review.
I then came to read Kaufman's self-published books and Miracle to Believe in has moved me so much.
If choosing happiness and evaluating my core beliefs has helped me even a little in my life and work, then I would like to thank Barry Neil "Bears" Kauffman for it.
I parodied Options Institute. I want my Wladek's intervention programme to be the best of Pathfinders (Jim Messina of
" Dear everyone at SonRise/Options Institute,
I admit I am a rank outsider first of all. My friend Avital Levin who lives in
I was wondering what your children's imaginative play/doings were like before, during and after a SonRise programme?
Have you and your children done any interesting/imaginative things lately because of SonRise? If so, what kinds of things? How do you continue to stimualte and develop them further?
Your transatlantic friend and researcher,
I had written in July of 2001.
Ten days later, I joined the board for special education and psychology which has taken a great deal of my life over the past five years. It has given far more than it has taken, at least in my experience. The author has moved to
I then asked about Raun Kaufman's lectures on the 30th September:
"It is now the 30th September 2001 here. I should like to know some wonderful first-hand attitude before it gets onto the site. I am almost sure it will be published at the same time as the start-ups for our country, and I would be particularly interested in inspiring things he said about Option in comparison to other therapies."
Here is Jacek's writing about the Options Institute. He is the man who wrote the Polish edition of the page:
" Hi Mario,
In my opinion these 5 days has been worth all money of the world. It is true that we have been leading our Son-Rise Program more or less properly (rather less) during last 9 months and we have been prepared for the next step of knowledge. This is the main condition of the participation's purposefulness. Mariusz started to speak more (english too :-)), his eye contact is better, we have understood a lot regard to his motivations, behaviours and what is the most important we see the clear plan in front of us. The knowledge's enormity that we have posessed requies time to be ordered and understood to the end. I will be obliged to translate all materials we have obtained. Yesterday it was a meeting of all our 16 volunteers. During 4 long hours we were speaking, explainng and presenting videos. It was worth to observe their fascinated faces in front of the screen. It seemed that they could enter into TV-set to be in the playroom with Aarton, Kelly, Jessica ... We know that some of them can work like tham, they needs only "the final cut" regard to the technics because they have 3 x E. Now there will be less number of unknows, troubles and questions "what to do when...". We have diagnosed child, the plan of his treatment, clear view regard to a lot of problems, and many, many targets to reach. Be sure, if you are prepared to it the Intensive Adv. Training is worth every efford.
P.S. DMA, thank you for the message that we have found in the basket. It was very pleasure tio find it.
P.S. When we leaved the Institute we noticed the lack of the table "The Place of Miracles". It is interesting what occured with it...?"
" I'd like to thank to all of you for this great 5 days. Now we have new look on Mariusz and the way of his treatment. I have taken with me a small stone from the path of the campus hoping that it will be any good talisman for Mariusz.
Dear Samahria, William, Kat, Aaron, Jessica, Kelly, Lynette, Susan, Suzanne, Joanna, Steve,
Good, bless you all. "
A few months before in March 2004, Jacek and Anna were wondering how to reconcile education with joining/following Mariusz's lead.
I am certain the parents here, not only those of autistic children, will identify very much with their feelings:
" Good morning to all of you on another side of
It seems to me that English language is easier than Polish if you take under consideration the matter of speech. You have a lot of simplifications, idioms and pronunciation is really simpler for children than that one met in Slavian languages. When I observe tortures that Mariusz survives trying to speak such a words like " pszczo³a" (a bee) or "czeœæ" "hi!" I cannot resist the impression that English could be for him easier. It is even impossible to explain to you the way of spelling regard to mentioned words. It is like a rustle in the deciduous forest during the wind. The matter of grammar is another story. Every noun has 6 cases and these forms differs one from another because of endings. The same situation is in case of verbs.
Mariusz uses very poor speach (in Polish) that may be from time to time quite well in English. We afraid that his education regard to the speech will be twice longer than in case of American or English child (in comparable state of course). He is able to compose paper bites with words into phrase but he is not able to speak the same words properly. ex.
Your pronuncoation of the verb "to want" is always the same. In Polish language the same verb "chcieæ" is different in every person and in every time.
We will take with us to
Maybe we are wrong...?
Warmest regards to all
- Jacek and Anna"
" Eyelashes!? Dear Josha, Mariusz puts softly his fingers into eye sockets and orders: "mrugaj!" ( twinkle!) or places his nose or lips. It seems that our children have the same "izms".
The word "zlin" doesn't mean anything. This is the play of course from his side. Every time during my session with him in playroom he says to me "giligili" (tickletickle) and our play becomes to be rather not creative. he can read short words, he can count, he knows letters and digits, he sings (very nicely), he knows short poems. BUT HE DOESN'T WANT TO SPEAK! He doesn't want to make education exercices. Maybe we are too boring for him...?
Your advises are very interesting for us because it seems that our children are much the same. Thank you for them. We will try all of course.
Thank you for answer. Your advices are very interesting. The main problem with Mariusz is, that his level of sensorial distortions is very high. It implicates fact, that our son prefeers to be tickled, hugged, clasped. How to change such fancies into educational skills? He is lazy and contrary, yesterday funny story occured in our playroom.
I showed him the picture with the fox (in Polish language lis - English pronunciation "leas" - we have no articles in our language). Mariusz perfectly knows what is the fox and how to speak "lis".
Dialogue that followed between us:
- Mariusz, pleeeeeaaaase tell me what is here? (lying on the floor and keeping small picture between our eyes with my face expression like crazy old chimpanzee to keep his attention on me)
- Zlin - he said looking on me
- Maaaaariusz, great! but pleaaase.....I know that you know what is it...
- Zlin (with smile on face)
(Ah you small prankster - I though)
- Zlin? Mariusz, please show where is zlin?
- Lis - he said irronically and one second later:
-Come on! Tickling, tickling !!!!!!!!!
And it was the end of education.
The problem is that Mariusz has not any interests apart of sensorial behaviours; to play with water (lately he has started to pour off water from his glass on the floor!), singing one fragment fo a sing around and around, he touches from time to time one place on the wall with his nose...
How to wake any interests up?
Is it too early? He is 6,5 years old!
We will concentrate on his social skills, rather not on education but we would like not to loose his current knowledge.
" After 4 months of our hard work with 14 volunteers my 6.5 years old Mariusz is going ahead. We try to convince him to educational exercices. The problem is that Mariusz is generally lazy and we are obliged to use dialog and action's loops to gain something from him. He can just read letters and even join them into short words, he can write letters, he can work well with puzzles but he doesn't want to do it. One mother of autistic doughter that completed all trainings in
Here is a nice long thread that he started in June. This shows us all that Mariusz is definitely receiving best practice education and well equivalent with the best in
I think you will all find it very inspiring!
Mariusz seems to have good music taste:
" Dear Son-Rise Family,
I have proposition to create special topic to put there information about exemples of our children's progress. We may write here not only happy events but descriptions of the way to them. It may be both carrying hope and instructive for all of us.
I would like to begin.
Yesterday Mariusz (6,5) suddenly started to play with the toy called "The Small Doctor". First time he used plastic stethoscope, thermometer and syringe regard to the doll. Later he started to egzamine himself. It took only some minutes; he stopped to do it when we started to try to help him. It is interesting that he is more creative when nobody tries to lead his play.
Apart of it he swiched the RCR on and he was listening the music about 20 minutes with attention. The record contained religious dynamic songs performed by childish band. Later he sang them (he is gifted for music having sweet voice). When we tried to turn the level of noise down, he turned it again on immediately. It is very interesting that he prefers special kind of music regard to the atmosphere. The textes of the songs he heard yesterday are rather melancholic.
Another song he preferes (from some years) is "Smells like a teen Spirit" of Nirvana. Although Mariusz cannot understand what Kurt Kobain sings there it seems that he can feel the special atmosphere of this song. It is the matter of reflection for us, parents that Kurt Kobain's "shout of the death" is such attractive for Mariusz. We have stopped to play Nirvana's songs in his presence taking under consideration possible consequences for him.
One way of another his ability to listen music we may try as success. He presents then high lavel of attention.
Have you got any interesting informations?
I will leave you with this joyous testimony:
" Dear dma,
Believe me that in your language the sound "th" is the most strange and difficult. I know a lot of English speaking people in
. Mariusz is lazy, terribly lazy and that is why his speech is poor. But he can sing like a nightingale having sweet voice and an ear for music. There are two students of
In 2,5 weeks ww will be in
Warmest regards to all
Moving right along from the individual to the institutional
I am sure that you will all need to understand that not all autistic people are lazy. They are working very hard to understand and stand the world as they/we see it, even at a young age.
Here is my long paper about Complex neuropsychological behavioural disorder of the post-institutionalised child which I wrote in September 1998. I will put relevant excerpts here. I think it has interests because of the changes we have to make to education and training to accommodate these children, especially as the first generation of Romanian orphanage children have become teenagers and adults in Western nations.
I hoped to make this speech to a conference of Parent Network for the Post-Institutionalised Child. Perhaps I still may, but I shall share it with you here!
It is perhaps the greatest act of courage to have your own world and live in it. It is ever greater to allow someone else to live in theirs. The trauma of migration often brings this choice home to us in a profound and confronting way. It is a choice that we accept and certainly keep in the forefront when we consider the best ways of meeting frightened, unhappy Eastern and Central European children on their terms. Will imposing certain values of civilisation and development necessarily make these children more secure, and therefore more receptive to the attention and affection of their caregivers? What practical suggestions are there to understand and treat their [reactive and adaptive] behaviour [while we value their essential personhood]?
Though the children from the Romanian and Russian orphanages are becoming the most psychologically scrutinised group of deprived infants in history, which is anything but a simple positive immediate study! - they are not, and should not become, "the forgotten people" at least in
First things first. The migration of young children halfway across the world before their full developmental awareness is completed - if it must be done at all - some consideration and basic knowledge of the start of the bonding process - generally 6 months or before - is not something I would personally recommend. One could come into their country for some years before one plans to adopt - even better - immerse your children into the culture. And learn the language and customs. Just because one part of the culture does not serve the children well, there is no reason for the adoptive parents to completely do away rest, in their mind and soul or the child's. It may prove a very important link to tolerance and understanding and very helpful later because you have a first-hand background and be in the ascendant explaining yourself in these embarrassing situations. It will consideratedly develop those of the attachments that are not disrupted by transition. One of the major causes of displacement behaviour, and the younger this break occurs, the more difficult to resolve - is a feeling of forever being an outsider to your homeland, losing your roots and your survival skills. If one never had that crucial connection, one would forever wonder what was missing and probably in consequence develop behaviour problems that may lead to emotional disorders. If one is cut off from one's country, one will be cut off from the world. In this era when the nation-state competes with the internationalist global village, thwarted patriotism has extremely dire and perverse consequences.
(I do not think in 1998 that I even imagined anything like September 11 or Iraq, though Saddam was always in the background).
Many people are perhaps not fully aware of the sweat, blood and tears that it takes to work and raise with these children. Remember, the most normal people do not learn about themselves automatically and unconsciously. Yet we are in a state of permanent shock when we find these children have to be taught formally the most basic things about being human. Americans are perhaps less surprised technically than those in Britain and the Commonwealth and europe - the lessons of research into the causes and treatments of pervasive developmental disorders, keeps them modest. We believe that until objective, reliable neurological evidence can be found - these children are completely at the mercy of their environment. We cannot escape the fact that what connects displacement behaviour and autism in whatever degrees - is alienation. We would theorise that in the respective disorders, causes would be quite different. Certianly, what impresses the unitiatied (and me) I admit most are the striking tendencies of what we have learnt to call autism. The lack of emotional contact and the stereotyped behaviours. The question of which of the present diagnostic categories - if any - our cases would fit into, is a very delicate one, and one in which I have no professional training. However, I am a concerned and interested, though misguided, young woman and hope that my well-developed geopolitical perspective in Europe and my tremendous psychological acumen will give you a clarified look at the issues and implications invovled in a tolerant, broadminded, personal and detailed outlook. Talk shows, lectures, support groups and such stuff ... We as an association for students and ordinary people to gain awareness and information and understanding can mix psychology and foreign affirs on a shaking ethical round and encourage people to contribute and support in crisis. We would feel morally impotent if we let the world's most powerful country do all the dirty work desite their enormous Government humanitarian funding and committment. In the past decade, many British and Europeans have abdicated their responsibility and done nothing. If we can give assistance with our bedside manner and inside experience this would be a good start. One of our aims is to give practical advice from a distance and offer our expertise from many sources and diverse media.
We will certainly endeavour to do so here.
Five years later, I did endeavour to do so. By the way
What follows is my evaluation of the situation. Remember: "I am a concerned and interested, though misguided, young woman and hope that my well-developed geopolitical perspective in
THE (AMERICAN DREAM) LIFE OF BRIAN: the developed personal becomes the mature geopolitical
(Orthodox Easter 2003)
A week is a long time in politics. In three of them, we have just had the Iraqi-Coalition Forces war. We are in various stages of recovery from the Cold War, and the news of the accesion in
Can you cry in Russian? Well, I don't know yet. I won't know in some time. I can appeal only to those who have empirical knowledge and expert opinions.
Five weeks: I consdier this the week after the fourth week. I perceive them not as a bundle such as two or three weeks would be. No-one has ever said to me: 'Five weeks before or five weeks since" I know five weeks as half-term.
Same with ten months. Before I made it into a major plot point, I again thought of it as the month after nine months and before eleven. Nine months is of course the time in the uterus, and it is also the school year in
So when there's little temporal context, it looks like nothing happened. If more than four significant things happen to me in a day/week/month, or I write more than four paragraphs, I become more stupefied. I remember information in three or four unit blocks. For instance, taking the EQ/SQ test designed by Simon Baron-Cohen on my computer, I found it difficult to recall the three before or after, thus making life difficult and deprivign me of essential contextual information. I score also in the bottom quartile of activities that require non-verbal sequencing (Picture Arrangement). On the EQ I scored 29 for E and S. I have a balanced brain, but lower than average in empathesising and systemising.
About the EQ:
The neurotypical man scores on average 42 and the woman 47.
Someone with Autism Spectrum Disorder scores 20 on average.
Someone with higher E scores has more of a femlae brain, and someone with a high S score has a male brain.
About the SQ:
So if you believed that I was neurotypical I would not be very empathetic, but if you believed I had an ASD I would do a bit better than my counterparts. You would then assume from my relatively below average score that autistic-like thinking processes have made their mark on my development and my life. Or that I am male (which'd be confirmed if I had scored five to fourteen). But then I would have a relatively low systematising score.
I believe this test is reliable, valid and covers a wide range of human behaviour. I scored on the Asperger Quotient 24 when I took it on April 2002. The neurotypical average is 16 and the Asperger/HFA average is 32.
The question format is strongly/slightly agree/disagree. It is also straight verbal and in the 1st person, whereas an EQ was second person hypothetical and had more detailed answers, though not enough to lead me on. It was EQ and I scored 160. The definitions were strongly grounded in Daniel Goleman's methedology, and my answers were Golemanised.
I'm very picky about the assessments I subject myself to, even on my own free will. In 2001, I never would have done anything which smelt like pop psychology. With me, there's a continuum of options from Pop to mainstream to esteoric.
Perhaps the most mainstream one can get is Gesell's development scale which many pop psychologists have repeated for their own purposes. He was trying to describe and analyse the normal development of the human organism in the biological sense. Empirically, we know that children develop differently from adults. The quality and quantity of this development changes over time. The pattern is essentially this: sensory, motor, intellectual, emotional. This is how the brain develops. it develops very very fast over the first three years of life. This is established biologically and empirically.
There are two ways to develop: to be process oriented and goal oriented. It'd be more correct to say: two ways to look at development. Also some development is more important or flashy than others. An example is lingustic development. The first word is something we all remember. It fills us with visceral excitement and gives us something to build on. It communicates a most significant shift in the relationship. Most development is based on relationship or at least assumes the presence of one.
That's why the psychologists got upset when they saw Grisha smile. Now a smile in itself is a beautiful thing. But it has relational functions. Indeed, it is expected under certain conditions, and a person's awareness of these conditions is more selective and sophisticated. That is you smile at a particular person in a particular time at a particular way. Also they believed that a smile is the outcome of a relation to an external process. Is smiling to oneself then eccentric? (No. According to the literal interpretation of the word, eccentric is more other oriented. It has become a very good word to described how others are impacted and impressed by our conduct.)
We are expected to co-ordinate several complex systems in a logical, rational and appropriate way. We judge our thoughts, feelings and actions in the larger context.
We live in a world of actions and thoughts, said a wise man who does his work in
I have not got a sanctified or idealistic view about mother/childhood, whether it is normal, delayed or deviant. I am not afraid to put labels like delayed or deviant on mothers as well as children. I hate mothers being perfect, and I hated myself as a child for expecting my mother to be perfect. My mother is a good person and she did her best. She had me later in life, after a successful career and education. Decency and civility are my cardinal virtues, among with honesty, compassion and independence.
We are not required to love everyone in civilised society. rather, they deserve respect and tolerance. Respect and tolerance are measured in intention and action. Until children are four or five, they cannot see intention. They see only action. We have some inherent biases in that our first relationships are based on love. Respect is generally being equals, but tolerance is usually a low-base virtue. It is usually shown from a superior to an inferior. We are rarely very free to say what we will or will not tolerate because it compromises respect and love. Also tolerance is a low-rate virtue because it is a universal one and we'd all love to make our unique contribution. However a wider tolerance level means we come to value more the things we respect and love. Lots of people see tolerance as two things: the cold fish or the doormat. It isn't a thing that people want to be, and it is not really cool. Yet it is a linchpin to a free and democratic society. The consequences of intolerance, for me, are just too much and too painful to live with. It takes a certain bravery. I have learnt to take delay and deviance so much better because tolerance gives me the longer-term view. It makes me want to include them as realities in my life, and not to idealise and devalue them. Instead we are becoming that much freer to say what we will or will not accept.
It's really hard to think long-term when you have no sense of the spatial and temporal consequences involved. And it is just so easy to live in the moment, and again, have no awareness of the consequences. Life's consequences are inherently unpredictable. Some people find it much easier to deal with unpredictability than others. Thus we focus on what we can control, or what we think we can control.
Many of the milestones we so cherished have in them a component where we can control our environment. Control is a very particular set of responses to a set of circumstances and expectations. If we expect to have control of our lives they tend to go better, and if we don't they don't. When we make control our reason for living or not living, we make ourselves a mess. Also we have different control thresholds. I have a quite low one. Transference of control is quite tricky. It's really ahrd to think that people are part of the environment, rather than people as people.
Now all this is hard to work out in five weeks or ten months, particularly when they're not marked by the temporal brain.
I never ever thought ten months an interesting point of development. I don't have a mental image for what a child of that age is supposed to do. And all my mental images are white male Anglo-Saxons. No expectations, no handicaps - for me, anyway. But many people, especially busy ones, expect something to be happening every day, every week, every month. I find my mental appraisal of days, weeks, months is not easily tied to sequences or experiences. More than three days in or out, and I am so out to lunch. This is made worse by dissociative episodes in whcih I lose time. I don't go to bed at a certain time, commit to a certain tie. I find time-related expectations and constructs constricting., I find it hard to conceptualise what Americans do with my time. I am yet to marry my subjective experience of time with a clock or calendar. It would take me all year to work out my menstrual period and its place in the larger cycle, and that is an essential part of being pregnant and having sex. My lack of planning and management in this very life skill puts me in danger, enve htough it is not so immediate and visceral as in other nations.
I don't mean to imply at all that a unplanned child is a mistake child. No child is a mistake. But timing is so important.
Many people say that 2 months - 8 weeks -56 days - is a reasonable time to transition. I am bewildered by the happenigns in a day, and yet a month is so long. I lvoe April and September - they are short months. June and November seem to be longer, yet they have the same numer of days.
But these particular 2 months are 10 and 12 months. Twelve months is when I expect many things to happen. It is only in the context of a year that I can confidently speak of delay, and 2 years that I can speak of deviance. The first too radical, and the second too conservative. Because of the sensitivity it's always going to be hard to find a happy medium. For instance, many parents oscillate in their descriptions between baby and little boy/girl.
I always always thought I could tell deviance so well. Becuase it has a connotation of being obviously inappropriate at any age. Now I learn to reserve judgement. But is that really so helpful? Is it really honest? It is intuition and instinct that tells me, but without the proof, I reserve judgement. And deviance means, unusual not inappropriate.
I consider 10 months out of judgement zone.
Let me tell you sometihng here. In September 1998 I thought attachment theory was bullshit. I had not yet met my current significant other, but I did by the end of that year. Even that couldn't have prepared me for the vissitudes of 1999. Even now I'm suspicious of extremists, but I gratly admire Groza and Federici. I mean, tohave that space of a year, to think and learn and to be challenged and not flinch or look back, to start to think I can do this. Never give up. There is always development. So long as you don't give in and hate yourself. At that time in September 1999 I was sick and stressed. My cousin Moriah was 16 months old. That kept me alive. June 1998 I was seriously suicidal and she was 5 weeks old. I'm a happy woman because I stuck around and now I have my freedom. May 2000 I began my geopolitical work. I really put iut in, learning about reactive attachment disorder and the co-morbidities. It's been ahrd to get re-oriented into post-institutional syndrome when I've been swotting so hard on Cluster B personality disorders and Munchausen's proxy. So now i know how the DSM works and the ICD too. Without that sort of a context I'd have no idea what is said in
I really really understand how it's like to be on a limb, to do this on your own. It took me six long years to form the contacts and tell people. Thais Tepper and Lois Hanlon and the others are going to die out. Tell the truth, there aren't the large scale studies nor the peer reviewed articles that could give informed decisions, so you get all these idiocies about labels being over or under used. I've been so busy learning about conduct disorders.
Anyway, babies are sacred turg. That's why I couldn't do this in 1998-99. I thought mothers were sacred turf too. I read the
So how do I get from the Wild Boy of Averyon to the Life of Brian? I think Victor represents all the teenagers who seem hopeless. He was fought over by so many people, yet he made big contributions to mental health, learning theory and language develpoment. At the beginning of the 20th century the established psychological balance shifted from Central Europe to
There was such a rich and civilised cutlure in those times and places. Art, music, drama. Immigration has contributed greatly to psychology through its human financial resources, but does psychology make things better for immigrants if it serves the needs and interests of the dominant culture?
The great Stnaley Greenspan brings to the table his incisive popular understanding of human development , in particular social interaction and emotional development. His staple method is a technique known as floortime, which seems a world away from children in their cribs. He really makes you feel that you're saving the world and doing something by spending time with your kid or kids. He makes use of common routines and interets. At the very least, you do it at meal time, book time, bath time, bed time and map time and most of all play time. Car time too, whther you're going out or to a therapy. The currency of floor time is to open and close circles of communcation, with a wide range of emotional themes.
There is one thing specifically promoting soical and communicative competence in late talkers. Is your child a constant social sounder?
This means, does he or she take turns with actions, sounds and words and faces? Jim McDonald of Columbus, Ohio, designed the ECO programme for parents to help their children to socialise and ocmmunicate. Basically you watch the child very carefully, imitate a small thing he does and then he imitates you. You go on with this for four turns or so and then you add somthing diferent. You become also a living dictionary, as I am for my cousins, you put words to the daily environment. This is really good for premature babies and those who are having stressful medical procedures, especailly those which affect their speech. Of thte recognisd disabilities he deals with McDonald's clientele is split even between Autism and Down's Syndrome. The
Greenspan, on the other hand, advocates the development of symbolic and abstract thinking, especially for those lucky children who progress fast after one or two years in his methods. He has an innovative characterising system with four groups who are sorted out by their sensory processing: like visual memory, visual comprehension auditory processing. Some of hyperreactive and some are hyporeactive, but still others are sensory seeking. Group 2 needs scripts, and group 1 has lots of imagination, but one subgroup of group 2 speaks more spontaneously becuase of their demanding nature which creates drama. Drama is a big thing in floor time. They are sorted out also by their social behaviour. Group 1 develops the capacity or has part of it already Group 3 has the capacity but finds it difficult to use it because of motor problems, motor skills and response to intervention. That's rihgt, visual, motor and auditory. In his ICDL book of guidelines (chapters 19-25) the colloboration has resulted in many developmentally-based methods for specific issues such as Lindawood and FastForward as well as great ways to work with adolescents and adults who may be in institutional settings due to their behaviour. Caveat emptor; Greenspan's groups are for static dysymmentries not for simplpe statics or progressives. Again with these good people it's a long haul but a different long haul. But at least Greenspan and Mcdonald make it fun and dvelopmentally appropriate. And sequencing is pretty important too.
I will assuming continuning this Greenspan exploration that we are somewhere between Self-Regulation and interest in the world and Complex Sense of Self. This takes in from 3 to 18 months. We cannot deny that an enormous amount of growth takes place - not if we are neurologically and psycholoigcally responsibel. There is a lot of focus on giving things in one area of the Motor Skills teachings. grabbing things in hands and banigng blocks. I will check my FeSA (Functional Emotional Assessment Scale, a most indispensible tool for any early interventor, particularly as it has concrete goals).
It seems Brian has a love for music, particularly in social interpersonal situations. Singing and music really seems to make people energetic and excited and enthusiastic. There are lots of wonderful childrens' record out there. The exemplar is the wiggles, who really seem to have it in tune. The best bit is the costumes, actions and Dorohty the Dionsaur. In
Chronologically he would in the middle of Intentional Two-Way Communiaction, but he is in Relationships, Attachment and Intimacy, a month in that.
Might be well to look at the Attainment Milestones scale, the first two stages. Look at Brian's regulatory patters and sensory modulation. I am sure a lot of things have to happen and be mastered before he knows you as his mother.
Too often we give the mentally retarded short shrift. Janis Cooke Newman wrote of a boy of her acquaintance that he wore a helmet. She didn't want to be teaching her son the names of common fruits and vegetables. Her intellectual vanity would not tolerate that. But did Annie Sullivan quail when she taught Helen? No, she gave her a sensory experience. That guy should have heard, tasted, smelt and touched the vegetables. His mind would have all this material to work on. Annie respected Helen as a paerson, a respect which was enhanced by discipline to make sure Helen came up to or exceeded her high expectations. She certianly did not meet her with horror. Annie did have horrors of people who more obviously manifested their condition, who learnt blindism and deafism from institutional settings.
One of my great role models, John Holt, has written of his horror at this girl at a concert. She waved goodbye at the musiicans and was very concerned for her mother's approval, in such little things as not spilling. We would say she was a twelve-year-old with the mind of a six-year-old. But she did not behave like a normal six year old. You have a six-year-old therfore you know this better than
Freakery can work for you or it can work against you. French culture celebrated primitivism - from a 21st century standpoint it is itself primitive. With Victor and Helen we got to look at whether words are the ultimate socail touchstone we most of us came to believe. With Helen we said a profound and joyful Yes, but it took a month for her to really understand the meaning of words, and give to be conversant and a responsible communicator. She got turned on at the age of 12 too - with the Frost King story. It seems when we are 12 years old, we make clear demarciations about who is human and who is not. By twelve years we expect children to be fully human, even if they are not developmentally twelve or have missed out on twelve year odl experiences. We are cruel bastards, turning on people at vulnerable stages of development. We who value intelligence and development in the pure sense ...well how high the mighty fall would be a kind way to put it.
Well, dear Jan - and I reach to you as a sister in geopolitics (and I can always do with expansions to my family!) even if we don't understand the significances of human development, I think we all can rejoice that Brian has had his borthday. May it be a good one for you all. It is now some three weeks since I made my speech, and I am disappointed to hear it is still a slow and confusing development, at least according to your perspective, and according to your speech therapist and occupational therapist - there is a reason these good people are in allied heath.
In celebration we turn full circle: Autism outside the Anglosphere
At times I wonder how the English language has meaning for its native speakers. And I definitely wonder how or why it has meaning at all. This is a tendency which is libael to become if not carefully checked linguistic apathy, lethargy and nihilism. Yes, communication does bring meaning to life.
There are many of us that are bamboozled by the more subtle signs of pervasive developmental disorders. Of course all these conditions can affect loss and grief. What I wish you to be aware of is that Autism Spectrum Disorder is a fundamentally different soical, communicative and imaginative personhood held together by a fundamentally different neurological organisation. It is this organisaiton that determines the receptiveness and expressiveness of the personhood. It modifies the toness, the forness, the withness of persons and things. Modifies, not creates or destroys. It'd be well to say that developmental delay is an incidental outcome in this personhood's adapations and reactions to their neurological organisation
There endeth the sermon.
I do suggest you make contact with Autisme Europe.
I go on to evaluate the offerings of Olga Bogdashina and Mira Rothenberg.
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