#songlyricssunday WORDS DON'T COME EASY F. R. David - "Melody so far my best friend"

3 November 2019: [a fortnight ago] there was an emergency in Dresden relating to the neo-Nazis and more specifically the political pressure group PEGIDA. Very discombulating to see them on the top of the Yahoo.co.uk news page and the situation in Dresden more generally.

10 November 2019: [last Sunday] I watched part of a film called BALLOON which is about two East German families trying to get around the Berlin Wall to the West. That week there had been lots of celebrations about the 30th anniversary of the fall of the Berlin Wall - I learnt a lot about journalists and Stasi informers. [That was a story which unfolded with my youth].

One of the scenes which moved me really hard was the youth confirmation of the 14-year-olds who were in the eighth grade or the third form [as lots of Europeans call that school stage/year - and still did in the 1970s and 1980s where Balloon is set - until about the National Curriculum in 1988 in the UK case and everyone had years except in grammar and more traditional schools]. The father - Strezlyk - sees a lot of nonsense and balderdash in it.

The last scene I saw was the first attempt at the balloon and then the blue screen kept breaking up from behind. It is a terrible thing for those with migraines and with photosensitivity; at least moderately disruptive and intolerable for every patron. You do get a complimentary drink and/or something to eat that you choose. You do get to know your patrons and the people.

It was a serious matter when it got into the advertisements which tell about future movies.

So that evening, after I went to a nearby park of native shrubs and trees with a lookout which is closed on Sundays, and to a ramen restaurant some way away in a food court, and the Housemuseum to see some challenging and provocative modern art - I drew a concertina door with two folds.

The outside is the setting up of the balloon process by the families.

There is a statistical opener which tells about the escapes from East to West Berlin and from East to West Germany from 1976 to 1988. So many attempts; so many failures.

The inside is a whole lot of nature in three colours [purple; red; yellow] and Zentangle-inspired artforms. It has been four years now since Zentangle was introduced to me.

Inside of the fold: various shrubs and trees and yellow cloud forms as well as scallop patterning

The outside of the fold shows the setting up of the balloon and the trial balloons

and then the family being triumphant - there were two families; eight members.

Some were young girls; some were small boys.

And this is roughly what happens when the world is upside down.

We do in fact see the world this way with primitive maps - however that was the scanner

Which leads me to the earlier Disney film - Balloon for 2018 was the very first German telling/narrative - which was made in 1982.

It provoked a lot of imagination and empathy for things which are often very hard to talk about and/or witness.

Like F. R. David and his piece of Italo-pop or Euro-pop which I am going to share with you today through Song Lyric Sunday. The prompt for 17 November 2019 is Do and Don't. Jim Adams has been using some very clever grammatical prompts.

What do we do when words don't come easily?

Words - don't come easy to me
How can I find a way to make you see - 
I love you
Words don't come easy

Words - don't come easy to me
This is the only way for me to say -
I love you
Words don't come easy

Well, I'm just a music man
Melody's so far my best friend
But my words are calling I'm wrong
and I, I reveal my heart to you
and hope that you believe it's true 'cause

Words - don't come easy to me
How can I find a way to make you see -
I love you
Words don't come easy

This is just a simple song
That I've made for you on my own
There's no hidden meaning, you know
and I - when I say I love you, honey
Please believe - I really do 'cause

Words - don't come easy to me
How can I find a way to make you see -
I love you
Words don't come easy

It isn't easy
Words don't come easy

Words - don't come easy to me
How can I find a way to make you see -
I love you
Words don't come easy
Don't come easy to me
This is the only way for me to say -
I love you 
Words don't come easy

Words don't come easy

thank you Golyr for the clean reproduction of the text - diest sehr gut!

When this song came to the consciousness it was only really in Monaco and France; a year later it became a hit for the whole of Europe.

If you liked easy listening and ballads and songs which didn't announce themselves though they had a beat and a self-definition Words don't come easy was a natural choice.

Love the modesty of the narrator and the way he talks about himself - I'm just a music man.

And the simple song verse. Some people may want to shake the narrator and/or kick him somewhere.

One hopes the hearer will respect the narrator enough to see - and not see past - words - don't come easy and their relationship is one which transcends and doesn't depend on words.

In late October 2019 I was fortunate enough to discover Deezer.fr which was an incredible streaming experience. For 30 days you can listen to all the music free and even make comments.

Soundcloud has been kind as well. I was tempted to listen to Ok boomer so I did. And then some rapping about a toy/console character with a co-producer Poloboy21 who is about 18.

So many hidden meanings; so many implicatures and inferences we make. And love drives us to understand them all - and hope for what we do not understand and cannot undertake - yet!

The narrator is very innovative and creative in finding ways for the person - and for the listener/reader/receiver - to understand.

Of course this makes me think of love languages.

I particularly appreciated the way Rachel Reyes made a lyric video.

The don't is especially powerful in this song because it would be a very different song without it. 

We would have our usual suave and articulate hero who would be very hard to relate to - someone who is in a romantic novel. 

Now those people can be complex and intriguing characters - even in a comedy of manners like Vanity Fair which I am very glad I did not binge upon when the opportunity was offered to me. 

I do still want to know what happens to Becky Sharp and Steyne and Rawdon the younger - I did feel the narrative change its tone when Becky and Amelia were mothers and Jos was in India being a nabob - specifically Bengal [now Bangladesh if in the East].

I am thinking that Melody so far my best friend is the most powerful of the lot - the one single lyric. Unfortunately it is not an earworm - though the concept and the idea certainly is

Repetition of Words don't come easy is a good one.

That is repeated four times at the end of each verse plus chorus. As if to say "Words don't come easy but if you keep at it they WILL come or they MAY come".

"Try not to worry because everyday concerns would bring them out".

Wikipedia reminds us just how big a hit this Italo-pop piece was on the British charts in particular. Number two! And that was in 1983. So you see it was a slow burn.

Its genres are soft rock; eurobeat; synthpop. Some incredible equipment was put onto it; a Simmons; a Lind; a Oberheim.

Someone who was instrumental [I think the pun is allowed] in putting it together was one Roberto Fozzini. He is the songwriter.

In the 21st century - which leads us to 2000 - there was a French-language version with Winda.

A whole generation of children and adolescents had grown up into their loving and dating years.

And by [7 December] 2006 when the video above was made an era had ended.

Seven years longer than I had any reason or right to expect.

YouTube had mainstreamed and mainlined into all our musical brains.

Chart positions for Words don't come easy as of 1982 and 1983:

Did you know, first, that it sold a million copies in France and indeed across lots of French overseas territories - like the ones in Africa; Asia; the Pacific?

Springbok Radio in South Africa absolutely loved it. There was a lot of big trouble with Apartheid which did affect a lot of people in the Commonwealth. I was still so little when the Rhys Muldoon issue came through - I am thinking Jim Bolger and Greg Chappell and Chappeli.

Perhaps Laurence was still alive.

Australia reported it by the end of 1983 as #49 - wow! the top 50! When I think of all the good Australian and international songs which you can experience on nzoz83 - and that I have shared with you in the past - I think Words don't come easy deserves to be up there.

Number one was an acclamation in Sweden; Switzerland; Spain; Ireland; Italy; the whole Eurochart [if you want to listen to decent European music - you could do worse than start there - or maybe with Caroline or Luxembourg like Robin Carmody of High-functioning human fame - or Humain a niveau-haut which is what I would have grown up with] Austria and Belgium [the Flanders version]. Switzerland and West Germany were into it.

Now if that isn't an advertisement for detente and/or European unity I don't know what is.

We do badly need it now - especially on 12 December 2019. Badly.

Lots of debates on the British Broadcasting Corporation and the Independent Television in the next few weeks.

On two separate Dutch charts Words don't come easy came #2 as it did indeed in France. And The Official Charts Company of the United Kingdom.

The Commonwealth of Nations was far more mixed - Canada thought this song should come ninth. I am sure the Quebecois market/vote drove it - though there is no reason English Canada shouldn't have liked such a smooth song. 

New Zealand made it seventh and Australia's Kent Charts put it as 12th.

Meanwhile on the hot 100 of Billboard Words don't come easy was 62nd place.

Turns out there were several remixes within the 1990s - 1997 and 1999 respectively in Finland and France - these were both in the top 30 - 12 and 27 for the Finnish and French ones.

Another Don't song I like very much and discovered in early 2001 is Heart don't change my mind in the Elaine Paige version - though it was sung by Streisand and Glen Medeiros who I think I will explore more during the week [especially a lyric video of Lonely won't leave me alone - when you think this situation is pervasive and permanent this is when you are in big big trouble and disturbance. Systemic work helps too - there is a Minister for Loneliness and another for Social Inclusion].

During the week. too, I am seeing Harry Potter and the Cursed Child and its Second Part.

#keepthesecrets is reminding me of Luria and Vygotsky and a cognitive test.

It is about buttons and instructions.

And commands in particular. "Don't press; don't press; press" and "Press; press; don't press" is said to 3 year olds; 4 year olds; and 5 year olds by an experimenter/examiner.

Vygotsky was the First Master of Inner and Private Speech.

So he wanted to see how far and how much the children internalised these instructions and related ones in real life and culture.

I learnt of this examination in James Britton's Language and Learning.

Probably somewhere after the children's dialogues and before Participant and Specator which I feel is the meat and potatoes of this book.

I think also of expressive; transactional and poetic and what a tightrope and precipice it can really be.

Children do play still in the 21st century - however the play behaviour of the children of the 1950s and 1960s was wow especially Alison and Claire Britton - Claire was a perceptive and caring young lady by the time she was written about as a late teenager.

[and she is part of the inspiration for all the responsible and competent eighteen-year-olds I write about who have an ethical system and a humanitarian streak.

The fault is to me, though, that it breaks down in the early twenties, more or less catastrophically].

Wednesday last [13 November 2019] I read a wonderful report by a Consultant Psychiatrist on Attachment and in particular the First Year Cycle - which had been spoilt for me by certain populist Americans from 2002 to 2008.

Something important I learnt: you need only be 30% sensitive or have sensitive interactions for that proportion.

Thirty percent of anything is bloody significant. Especially it could sway cognitive or linguistic delay or deviance.

As I said words don't come easy - but they don't have to to be socially significant or valid.

Lead; learn; leave: Interesting answers for linguistically-oriented Quorans embedded for November 2019 and compelling Academia.com papers in varied fields of interest

Over the past 45 months I have been asked - and asking - Quora questions. [only about 10 for the asking portion].

[in 2020 I will have been doing it for four years as of February].

Here is a Quora answer someone asked about Your future being blessed and secured:

Read Adelaide Dupont's answer to Your future is blessed and secured. Is it correct? on Quora

[hoping the JavaScript is behaving itself!]

And another response/answer I made about despise and detest - I went up close and personal for this one. [I wrote a book called Ever the Westerner in which the diarist-heroine-protagonist says these things in her narrative - so it was fresh in my mind at that point. Though I have not read that script since early in the 21st century].

This heroine would have a habit of saying "I utterly detest" and "I utterly despise" as if those words were not strong enough on their own and she could not say them on her own.

The related words our questioner references are contempt and disdain.

Read Adelaide Dupont's answer to What does the word "despise" mean? Does it only mean to regard with contempt and disdain, or can it also be used as a synonym for detest? on Quora

And this third question is about "Old-fashioned slang". Yes: words have fashions.

A bit more about me and grouse : I was quite overbowled back in February 1993 when I saw it on a student writing assistant tool.

I did learn later on that grouse in its non-slang sense meant something about a bird.

Read Adelaide Dupont's answer to What's some outdated slang you used to use that no one says today? on Quora

Another young person asked about dramatic mistakes. I was able to edit the question slightly so that mistaks were mistakes and the previous word agreed with dramatic; and send it to other Quoran topics like Drama as an interpersonal interaction and English phrases - where I have answered some hundred questions.

One question I would like to know -- is how do you embed the questions onto your blog and make sure they're small enough to fit in the space?

mean/answer/Adelaide-Dupont'>Read Adelaide Dupont's answer to What do "dramatic mistakes" mean? on Quora

It all started with someone asking I don't want to be somebody; I want to be somebody better.

Very relatable!

Read Adelaide Dupont's answer to What does the phrase "I am not trying to be somebody but just somebody better" mean? on Quora

My 1987-88 self was seriously counselled and bounced against every catchphrase there was, but my 2019 self found it hard to find a specific one.

Finally I went back not quite so far - 2006 - and found O RLY? which is short for Oh really? and seems very contemptuous.

Read Adelaide Dupont's answer to What new catch phrases do you tend to avoid using whenever possible? on Quora

Now that I think about so close and so far - it seems to me that the conflict comes in when the "so close" is concrete and the "so far" is abstract.

And of course the "so far" can be interpreted provisionally - that you are still at it.

Read Adelaide Dupont's answer to What is the meaning of "so close yet so far"? on Quora

If any kind people know about docking - of course one can always add or edit to an answer and indicate that one has done so - that would be so much to the good

And if the person can remember that my definitions tend to be loose usage and anything but exact:

Read Adelaide Dupont's answer to What is the exact meaning of 'docking'? on Quora

People have a way of asking me all sorts of IT questions [information and communications technology] Whether they talk about burner phones or deafen [on DISCORD!?!?!??!?!] or the digital Iron Curtain I am always happy to oblige.

Read Adelaide Dupont's answer to What does deafen mean on Discord? on Quora

Read Adelaide Dupont's answer to What does the term 'Chin Stroker' mean? on Quora

When people ask about chinstrokers I got a picture in my head about Stephen Fry, the multitalented comedian whose Fry Chronicles I was about due for a re-read. A question that helps me get a picture in my head ...

Read Adelaide Dupont's answer to What is a ‘digital iron curtain’? on Quora

Above is the answer to the question about the Digital Iron Curtain.

Below is the answer to the question about the Burner Account.

Read Adelaide Dupont's answer to What is a burner account? on Quora

This Tuesday [Guy Fawkes Day - 5 November 2019] I received two interesting questions:

One is about the coup de main

Read Adelaide Dupont's answer to What is a coup de main? on Quora

and the other is about well-founded fear [sometimes fear can be very well FUNDED too! in fact all too often!]

Read Adelaide Dupont's answer to What does well-founded fear mean? on Quora

Did you know not all heroes wear capes?

Read Adelaide Dupont's answer to "Not all heroes wear capes." Who does this phrase make you think of and why? on Quora

I thought I would put some Academia.com papers here too so you can meet my heroes who may or may not wear capes:

Maurice Stierl wrote Can Migrants at sea be heard? [Stehl 2019]. He lectures/teaches/studies at University of Warwick.

Markieta Domecka wrote about gender and migration and reflexitivity especially where process is concerned! She is at Nottingham.

Jordi Valverddu [Barcelona] wrote about robotics and robotic devices - "What's your robotic challenge"? Maybe blended cognitions can help.

He wrote another interesting paper about Monamides and how they stimulate emotions and psychosocial states with some friends and fellow academics. The natural thing is about amino and mono- and multi- amino acid or MOA as it is called in the more popular literature like Anthony Hordern's Tranquility denied which was around when I was a little girl. And I read it in the early to mid 2000s. #fuzzylogic #aminoacids

Then I must find out about Max Talanov and Alexey Leukhin - he is an undergraduate at Kazan University and he went to a technical high school in that part of the world. For some reason his Academia.com profile just says "Alexey". Like Max he is into affective computing and neuroscience interfaces.

One of my favourite people in Academia.com is Springer - he writes all kinds of papers about anarchy, anarchism, geopolitics and neoliberalism. He teaches this year and last year at the Australian University of Newcastle - that part of the world is under fire of the catastrophic variety [well, Tenterfield and Armidale and 16 places in New South Wales are and 3 places in Queensland].

Sometimes people feel as if neoliberalism = the living dead and that there is "no more room in hell". Simon Springer's first paper I wish to share with you is all about that.

Springer wrote another interesting paper.

Powerful ideas have anatomy - you can pull them apart and see how they work. When you see how neoliberalism works you may be less frightened - or even more frightened than you are today.

And that is probably not the most interesting paper I have read - I intend to read it on the weekend and the others too.

In the November edition of the Insecure World of Writers the question was asked:

What is the strangest thing you have researched?

I will say that "Active research make the world less foreign and alerts me to the strange in myself and in other people and this assists me greatly in life and literature.

Even passive research is of some benefit and empowering.

Research means of course to look again and look more bravely and deeply than you may have done before - research is a provocation; a prompt; it keeps you independent and wise and honest".

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